I wouldn\u2019t have known about the \u2018Bro Code\u2019 if it wasn\u2019t for Barney-LEGENDARY-Stinson from the TV series, How I Met Your Mother. Thou shan't break THE Code A quick search on Wikipedia defines it as \u201cA friendship etiquette to be followed among men or, more specifically, among members of the bro subculture\u201d. I should\u2019ve done my homework on the Bro Code before I got involved with two \u2018bros\u2019 who stuck by it to a T. SEEING STARS I first met Rick when he came over to a mutual friend\u2019s house. Immediately sparks flew between us. We hit it off, and the PDA was obvious to everyone. Eventually we flirted and exchanged numbers. He texted me later that night, saying he enjoyed meeting me and made plans to meet up the next time he comes over. None of us said anything, but our mutual friend Jamie said he was really into me, and that he needed a \u2018cold shower\u2019 after meeting me. So, I took it as a sign that he fancied me. I mean, wouldn\u2019t you? \u00a0 THE REVELATION But then, over the next few weeks, there were no texts or calls. And though I kept wondering about it, I didn\u2019t do anything. One day, someone broke into the back door of the office and stole my bag while I was at work. I didn\u2019t have the keys to my apartment, so I went to Jamie\u2019s house while waiting for the landlord. While I was there, I met Gavin, a friend of Jamie\u2019s who was visiting for the weekend. But I wasn\u2019t in the mood to talk to anyone as I was still shaken about the break-in, so I just fell asleep on the sofa. I woke up to find Gavin in the house, keeping me company while the others went to dinner. We stayed up late just chatting, and that was when I found out that Jamie, him, and Rick are ALL childhood friends. Nice. TOO FAST, TOO SOON Gavin went back to his hometown and was constantly texting and calling me, booking tickets to come see me. In just under 2 months, he confessed that he liked me, declared that we were \u2018boyfriend and girlfriend\u2019, and wanted me to come over to his place to meet his parents! I was stunned. I liked the guy, but the thought of meeting his parents after just 2 months was a bit too much. I should\u2019ve said something when he just declared that we were a couple. I shouldn\u2019t have agreed to be his girlfriend. Gavin was a great and sweet guy, and any other girl would\u2019ve been thrilled to be in a relationship with him \u2013 unfortunately I just wasn\u2019t that girl. Instead, I just kept quiet, especially after he spoke of his life back in his hometown, which included growing up with Rick. Before I knew it, I was on the train to his place. Throughout all this, all I really wanted to do was to see Rick again! THE MOMENT OF TRUTH Gavin was elated upon my arrival, and told me about his plans of taking me around town to meet all of his friends and relatives. This included Rick as well. I knew it was wrong, but I called Rick while Gavin was at work to arrange for a meet-up. He knew I was coming, since Gavin wouldn\u2019t stop talking about me every chance he got. We met up at this caf\u00e9, and both of us realised that the sparks were still there. Unfortunately, he said he didn\u2019t act on his feelings soon enough. He said Gavin was already raving about me, so he thought, well - the best man won. At that moment, all I wanted was to be with Rick and didn\u2019t care about anything else. We were so caught up in our emotions that I ended up spending the night at Rick\u2019s. I ignored all of Gavin\u2019s phone calls and texts, the bitch that I was. The next morning, Rick dropped the bomb saying it was all a big mistake - that he shouldn\u2019t have done what he did, as I was Gavin\u2019s girlfriend. He would never break the \u2018Bro Code\u2019 he said; he\u2019d never take his best friend\u2019s girl. Even if one day things didn\u2019t work out between him and I. I was gutted. I guess that serves me right\u2026 right? COMING CLEAN Ashamed, humiliated and feeling dejected, I went back to Gavin\u2019s place and told him everything that happened the night before. Of course, he was pissed off (no surprise there), as he thought everything was going smooth between us and he was already imagining a future with me. At that point, I voiced out my real feelings towards him \u2013 something that I should\u2019ve done before. Yes, I liked him, I said. But I didn\u2019t fancy him or was even attracted to him. I told him I thought of him as a great friend, but everything moved too fast, etc\u2026 but I didn\u2019t think he was even listening to me at that point. Clearly upset, he told me to get on the next train home. I tried contacting Gavin to apologise as I felt really bad, but he blocked my number. I did the same with Rick as I thought we could still have a chance, but he wouldn\u2019t have it either. Bros stay together LESSONS FOR LIFE Like I said, I should\u2019ve come clean to Gavin in the beginning, not letting him to think that I fancied him as well. I could\u2019ve avoided the whole disaster if only I had admitted that things were going way too fast for us. I should\u2019ve asked him to give me some time and space to think about going exclusive and meeting his parents. Who knows, my feelings for him would change over time, right? But instead, I kept quiet and went along with whatever he said. Always, always voice out what and how you feel towards somebody and don\u2019t wait too long. Same goes for how I felt towards Rick as well. If only I had put my ego aside and just called him after we met, perhaps things could\u2019ve been different between us. Well, there\u2019s no use crying over spilled milk, is there? You might not agree and call me defensive, but I didn\u2019t think I was cheating on Gavin. After all, I\u2019ve never actually \u2018agreed\u2019 to be his girlfriend. It was just something I went along with \u2013 just so I could meet Rick again. I knew my plan backfired, and that I deserved what I got being \u2018dumped\u2019 by Rick (and Gavin). But as humiliating as it was, at least I did find out that I wasn\u2019t alone in fancying Rick \u2013 just that it was bad timing and judgment. No doubt, I had lost to one of the terms in the Bro Code - never mess with guys and their loyalty to friends ever again. But I\u2019ve also learned to always be honest, upfront, and think about the dire consequences of my (in)actions to others. And those are the things I\u2019ve carried on doing in all my future relationships. For more articles by Nazmie, read 5 Mistakes I Made When I Told My Best Friend That Her Husband Was Cheating on Her, and I Had a \u2018Friend with Benefits\u2019, Which Went Completely Wrong. Here\u2019s What Happened.