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Since we were young, we were sold on the “dream wedding” idea where everything is white, pure and “heavenly”. But what if that isn’t what all little girls dream of? Some little girls grow into ladies with different ideas for their dream weddings. This is true for Azze!
Azze got married recently, and her wedding was unlike any other!
Here are some things she requested that made her wedding different from the rest!
Planning The Party!
I had started planning both the bachelorette party and the wedding in January 2022. I prepared a vision board using Pinterest, Instagram and Tiktok to guide me in planning both events.
After identifying who my bridesmaid would be, they took over the party planning for my bachelorette party!
[source: azze’s tiktok]
A Goth Chic Bachelorette Party!
“I wanted a private goth chic party where all of my best babes from different stages in my life would be able to gather and have fun!”
My maid of honour helped decorate the Airbnb we rented to fit the vision board I prepared.
They even prepared foods and beverages that were on point with the theme!
[image provided by azze! ]
On the wedding day itself, I made some arrangements with the decor, my outfit, my nails and even the wedding rings so that they would also fit into my idea of a dream wedding.
Black French Tip Nails & A Custom Black Bouquet
The nails were my attempt at “keeping it classy for the wedding day” as I usually wear black nails daily.
[source: shutfeed studio on azze’s twitter]
“[The bouquet] was a last-minute decision because I [initially] didn’t want any flowers at my wedding.”
I chose purple and maroon for the bouquet. With purple representing my colour and maroon for my husband. I also had the handle decorated with black ribbons and a pearl string.
Custom Black Wedding Rings
I searched high and low for custom rings! In the end, I settled for a local jeweller who was able to make them with black jewels for both the bride and groom’s rings.
[source: shutfeed studio on azze’s twitter]
“[To be honest] I don’t love my ring, but his ring is perfect”
Dark Decor… Also Dark Arts From Guests
[source: shutfeed studio on azze’s twitter]
“I don’t hate flowers… they’re [just] not really my thing and I’m more to candles and crystals.”
[source: shutfeed studio on azze’s twitter]
I also had a table laid out for guests to leave their gifts and wishes. The guests would write their wishes for us on card-size acrylics, which doubled as minimalist decor for our home!
A Creepy-Themed Outdoor Shoot For The Bride And Groom
[source: shutfeed studio on azze’s twitter]
“I didn’t want any flowers as background. So we went for a creepy theme instead.”
The Absolutely Obligatory Alt Makeup and Fashion For The Bride
For the nikah, Azze did a black smokey eye. For the sanding, she had purple lips!
Left is azze at her nikah, right is her at the sanding [source: shutfeed studio on azze’s twitter]
“I’m more obsessed with my nikah dress than my sanding dress. LOOK AT IT, and those black shopee heels completed my nikah vision.”
[source: shutfeed studio on azze’s twitter]
No, I’m Not Wednesday Addams. I’m Azze
I’m getting a lot of comments about trying to pull off a Wednesday. But no, I wasn’t pulling off a Wednesday here because…
- Wednesday is a teenager, so why are we setting her up to be married?
- Wednesday detests emotions and happy events.
- I’m an adult who has her own preferences and interests.
I’ve been through different experiments since growing up. Being the eldest, I had to figure out many things by myself. Be it appearances, education, belief, or even basic interests.
I believe whoever I am now, I’ve had the idea since I was a teen. I was just too scared to be proud of it.
[source: azze’s instagram]
I used to distance myself and had a huge breakdown because people always criticised my actions. It didn’t toughen me up, but it made me think everything about myself was wrong. Ultimately, I learned I should stop worrying about what others thought, and that this was how I wanted to live my life!
[source: azze’s instagram]
If more people did this, I believe it could foster a healthier society where communicating can be easier.
The Challenge of Convincing My Parents…
It was a challenge to convince my parents because they were not fans of dark and moody themes. But I made a short proposal consisting of pictures of other Malay couples getting married in black, and my partner even found an article about it.
We ended up meeting in the middle. We managed to divide the wedding-planning into separate parts and my parents would decide based on my preferences and the wedding theme.
(from left to right) hantaran from the bride and the groom [source: shutfeed studio on azze’s twitter]
I noted their suggestions and carefully decided if they fit my vision. The last thing I wanted was for anyone to feel left out. I’m glad everyone enjoyed my wedding as much as I did.
Some of my guests wore black too because I asked them! I also had a wedding wishlist where all items to buy for us should be black.
A Match Made In The Black Parade
Azze and her husband. [source: shutfeed studio on azze’s twitter]
“I wasn’t going to waste my time again with a guy who can’t appreciate it.”
My husband loves black and maroon minimalistic designs. Although the wedding was not a joint ceremony, I would still ask for his opinions on many things!
The vendors I hired would comment that the “pengantin tak pernah nak macamni” (brides would never request things like this).
I am lucky to have my family and bridesmaids help me throughout the wedding planning and event.
At the end of the day, I’m glad I stuck to my vision, and I am definitely counting my blessings ?
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