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I’m currently listening to a podcast where they’re talking about the fear of rejection. I love listening to podcasts because, to me, they’re calming and relaxing.
I’m too afraid to confess to the person… We’ve actually been friends for more than 7 years now, so I don’t want to ruin that either.
I’m 20 years old right now, and he’s 23 years old. We’re childhood friends.
What I like about him is that he’s really supportive and kind, and he’s actually a poet. That’s my weakness, truly, because I love poetry, and I love his poems. We don’t get to see each other that often because he’s in University. We see each other about twice a month, probably, and usually we’d just hang out, get coffee, chill, and chat.I don’t think I have shown signs that I’m interested in him (well, he hasn’t really gotten my signal), and I cannot say for sure that he has shown much interest in me. So, that’s why I have this fear to begin with! (laughs).
I’ve never been rejected before because my romantic experiences have always been “puppy love.” But I feel like this is more serious because I really like him… That’s why I’m so afraid to ask him out or to express my feelings.If I had to confess to him, I’d probably just invite him out for coffee, talk to him more, and then tell him how much I liked him.
But I don’t think I could do it. I’m afraid… Maybe I’ll try one day… I don’t know when (laughs), but I’ll try.
I had a boyfriend previously, but we broke up two years ago. He cheated on me with my best friend. I found out when I saw her texting him. I don’t talk to either of them, and I don’t think they even got together.
Honestly, I wasn’t mad at my best friend at the time because my ex-boyfriend was actually the first one who initiated it. My best friend wasn’t reciprocating romantically, but she did talk badly about me to him. I have other friends, and I was closest to her, but she treated me like this.
What did you learn from the podcast?
I just started listening, actually! But so far, I’ve learned that it’s better to just confess to the person you like.
“If they don’t like me back, then I’ll just have to accept it. If I don’t tell them how I feel, then I’ll just stay in the same place and hope for something that won’t arrive.”
I know I should confess, but I’m still going to take small steps towards it.
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For more stories like this, read:
5 Ways of Dealing with Rejection When Your Crush Rejects You
I was Rejected by My Best Friend – How My Mom Taught Me To Believe In Love Again
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