This is a story of how a woman financially supported her husband as he tried to find work, only to find out that he was having an affair behind her back.
My now ex-husband and I met during university many years ago. We fell in love quickly after becoming friends.
After university, we decided to move in together in a rented apartment as we wanted to be closer together.
By this time I had already secured a job at the company that I had done my internship in, and it was paying decently well for a fresh graduate.
My husband, on the other hand, was looking around and applying for jobs.
I’ve always believed that to make a relationship work, it wasn’t about how much the man can provide, but it should be more equally distributed.
As we were the same age during this time, in our early twenties, I never put any expectations on him for providing.
I happily paid for the monthly rent and groceries, while he was home. To me, we were in it together. We always talked about being partners in life, not just for the good times.
As my career took off in the MNC company, I was being paid well, and not only were we sustaining, we were doing well.
During this time, my husband discovered a certain MLM company that operates in Malaysia.
It is an American company that sells health supplements and beauty products and classifies itself as “direct selling”. They sold the idea that you could become a millionaire if you knew how to lead properly.
There often were leadership conferences and workshops that they conducted where participants had to pay to attend.
My husband was adamant that this is the way he would be able to pay me back for everything and often asked me to “invest” in our future.
I have to admit, I really wanted to believe in him, and that he was doing his best to build a life for us.
We would often dream and fantasize about our retirement, where we would want to travel to and settle down.
We never wanted kids, so our dream was to travel the world.
His position within the MLM kept him busy – often having to go out and meet different people. The money he made was always something small, never enough to build wealth, but enough to keep the dream and reinvest it.
Sometimes he would take me out for a birthday or anniversary dinner, and that would be the extent of the financial contribution towards our shared life.
I never complained, not even once as I truly believed we were doing our best to build the life we wanted.
A decade long, gone like that
I’m almost ashamed to admit it, that this went on for way too long. It was almost a decade of me providing for him financially.
His earnings never justified the investments we made in this direct selling business, and after about 5 years, I had to have a talk with him.
I told him that we needed to rethink our investment into this direct selling scheme, and maybe he should look for other opportunities that would provide a more stable income.
During this time, we were also keen on buying our own home, and we needed a full second income.
I was already earning around RM10,000 during this time and his monthly bring home would be anywhere around RM900 – RM2000 on a good month.
I think our relationship took a downward turn after this point. He started to feel like I was “controlling” him and what he would do as I had the last say on many decisions as I was bringing home the income.
Unfortunately I had to, as I was liable for the mortgage on the house that, technically I bought, but we had both our names on it. I would ask him often about job prospects and send opportunities his way. I believe this made him resent me.
I finally left his pathetic self
Exactly on our 10th anniversary. I left him. A few days prior, I had an idea for a gift, which required me to print out a photo of us from our first hang out, back when we were still university friends.
I went to our desk computer, which I rarely ever use. I was scrolling way back on the photos album. I was honestly just taking my time, going down memory lane, clicking on each photo.
I found a picture of a woman I didn’t recognize on a bed, and was scantily dressed. The picture was from 3 years ago.
I managed to find another 4 pictures of different women that this disgusting excuse of a man had cheated on me with.
I saved the pictures and got them printed out. I waited till our anniversary party, which was already planned in advance.
We had a few of our family members at a restaurant. We had reserved one of those private family rooms.
In front of both of our families, I passed him a box and asked him to open the gift I had gotten him.
My bitter revenge
Inside, were the printed pictures of the women he had cheated on me with. His face turned white. He had no escape as all our family kept asking him to show them what I had got him. Reluctantly he had to show them and I told him to explain to them. Things got quiet after that.
I got up, and walked out, not looking behind me.
My divorce process was fast. I had the evidence and I had substantially more resources than him to hire a good lawyer.
I got the house, the car, and 100% of the money in our joint account, as I was the only one who contributed to it anyway.
It’s been 3 years now, and I’m in a relationship with a man that is a strong provider, never letting me pay for a single thing, taking me on trips and spoiling me with lavish gifts.
It’s not that I can’t buy them myself, but it’s his ability to provide for me that I find attractive. I don’t keep in touch with my ex and I’m not sure what he’s up to, and frankly, I really don’t care.
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