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Whether you’re on dating apps like Tinder, Grindr, or Bumble (does anyone actually use Coffee Meets Bagel?) to look for a serious commitment or ‘something casual’, the process of finding out whether the person you’ve matched with is a right fit for you can be a slow one.
Texting for a week before meeting up in person, only to have him show up for the first date in shorts and flip flops? Ain’t nobody got time for that.
Malaysia’s most viral bachelor
Meet Afeez, a 32 year-old CEO of an IT company who took to twitter to find his potential life partner. Last week, he tweeted at @TwtJodohMY with a very comprehensive profile of his interests along with some photos of him and his nieces and nephews, perfect girl bait!
Overnight, his tweet blew up, and is now at over 6k likes and 3k retweets. The replies are flooded with hundreds of people pitching their friends, and even themselves, to this eligible bachelor.
What is @TwtJodoh?
@TwtJodohMY on twitter is an account that shares and retweets anyone who tags them in a tweet who is looking for their ‘jodoh’ or soulmate. It has over 80k followers including Malaysian twitter legend Mydin!
The rules to qualify for a launch onto the twitter feeds of 80 thousand people are simple – have an active twitter account, have yourself set as your profile picture, provide details/photos of yourself and what you are looking for in a partner. Dating has never been this easy!
If you strip away the fancy job title, who is Afeez really?
“I don’t mean to brag. People think being CEO is great but I had a few mental health issues around 2017-2021 because of it. If anyone would want to take my job and I just had to pay them, I’d love to resign,” Afeez tells In Real Life.
“Even me having a plane or helicopter license, so what? It’s just something to talk about. Other than my age, all those points on my profile are irrelevant, all superficial. It should mean nothing to my potential partner. My partner should be able to look past all those points and try to find out what really defines me, who I am as a person.”
The risk of gold diggers
“Fool me once, shame on you; Fool me twice, shame on me. I have been running businesses for years, I have also been trying to get jodoh for years, if you are a gold digger, I can sense it. I am able to decipher and filter signals from noise.
“I have over a thousand messages now but I also have work, so I’m trying to balance it out. I’ve chatted with a few and they are a nice bunch of girls but I am still not sure, I have to meet them first.”
Afeez’s view on online dating seemed calculated and tactical
When asked about the different apps he had tried, he was giggly and used some comparisons he seemed to have found quite amusing. “It’s a different clientele, my idea is to expand my outreach so that I am able to review more candidates.
“I saw a few tweets about TwtJodoh so I was like why not just try, I did not expect it to blow up. Usually it’s the girls that get a lot of attention, I’m a nobody, so I didn’t expect much.”
Facing the pressure of society to get married
Yes, it’s 2022 and times are changing, but there always seems to be some sort of underlying and unshakeable pressure to take the “normal route” in life. Finish school, get a job, get married, have kids.
When you start seeing all your friends around you start families when you haven’t even sorted yourself out yet, it’s only natural to sometimes wonder, “What am I doing with my life?”.
“Why do we need a time range? Everyone is like ‘oh you’re 30 already and not married, bujang terlajak kind of thing. I was sure of myself in my 20s, but now I am not. Everyone’s journey is very different. There’s a lot of pressure but I just don’t care that much.
“ If you have a superficial idea of an ideal partner, it’s stupid and short term. Today you want to eat dimsum, tomorrow you want to eat nasi lemak.
“There’s no specific preference of what I am looking for. A nice girl. That’s it.” Seems easy enough! Think you’re the one for him?
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