I was a small town girl with simple aspirations.
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I grew up in a small town in Selangor*. My mom was a housewife and my dad was a dry goods seller. I have one sister. We didn’t grow up rich, but we were happy with what we had.
I wanted to get a stable job, travel the world, get married, and settle down. After I graduated with a hospitality degree, I started working as a floor staff in a 5-star hotel chain.
I started seeing this guy, Nabil. He was a doctor, he was caring, and he had a bright future.
My parents approved of him. We dated for 3 years, then he proposed to me, and I said yes! I thought that everything was going well.
But one night, he told me while drunk that he had second thoughts and called off our relationship.
After I confronted him about his sudden change of mind, he confessed that he had cheated on me. I was devastated.
I locked myself in my room and cried the whole week. I fell into depression. As a side-effect, I lost my appetite for food, and my weight dropped from 45 kg to 36 kg.
Then, as if to make matters worse, my dad became severely sick in early 2022.
My dad was diagnosed with a life-threatening heart condition
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Two years after my breakup, I received news that my father had fallen down and needed to be taken to the hospital.
I dropped everything and went to see him in the ward.
After running some tests, the doctor had told us that my father had a dangerous heart condition. At any moment, a blood clot could form in his heart, travel up to his brain and cause him to have a stroke.
To stabilize his condition, he needed a pacemaker that would cost RM80k. Unfortunately, my father wasn’t insured.
Both my parents were in their 70s, and my sister was a housewife with no income of her own. There was no rich relative to call, no bank loan we could afford.
I felt so helpless about the whole situation. He could collapse any day, and there was nothing we could do about it.
So I made the tough decision to quit my full-time hospitality job to take care of him — there was no one else at home to give him his daily medication.
My dad didn’t want me to quit my job, but to be honest, I’d hate myself if I spent another day working a 10-hour shift.
I started working part-time as a shopping mall sales promoter. I was working from 10am to 10pm, and earning RM3,000 a month. It was a backbreaking job, and yet I was only earning peanuts.
I was really struggling financially to support myself, let alone my dad, but I couldn’t get a full-time job because there was no one to take care of him.
I started Live Streaming on Sugarbook
I first heard of the term ‘sugar babying’ on this Tiktok video that my friend forwarded to me. The video explained that sugar babies are young men and women who usually enter a relationship with an older, wealthier person, who are called a sugar daddy or sugar mommy.
In return, the sugar babies receive monetary support in the form of gifts, financial support, or career advancement.
I joined Sugarbook after Googling it. It was like a high-class dating site. There was an option called Live Streaming and Private Calls. It seemed like a safe option compared to meeting the sugar daddies in person.
So I set up my account and gave myself the name BabyFoxx. I chose that name because I think foxes are cute, and because I was technically a sugar “baby” now.
The first time I became a Live Streamer, I went live in front of a group of sugar daddies.
They were surprisingly so nice. I was expecting a mix of comments. But they were all so gentlemanly and positive.
As I got more used to talking with them, I got more confident.
Now I’ve saved over RM48,000. My total compensation ranges from RM 9,500 to RM13,000 monthly.
Going from a RM3,000 job to more than 4 times that amount was a life-changing experience. I don’t feel trapped anymore, I can finally feel hope for my dad’s future, as well as my own.
Once, I was even asked out by a sugar daddy, and he offered me RM10,000 to go on a date with him, but I declined because I prefer to do everything virtually.
My father’s medical fees currently are in the 150k range. I’m still saving up, but one day I will reach that goal of paying for everything.
I chose to don the mask for two reasons: first, to create the persona, and second, to conceal my identity from my family and friends.
What I learnt from being a sugar baby
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I really love being a Livestreamer on the Sugarbook app. I have flexibility in my working hours and I love talking to people, and I am able to pay my dad’s medical bills.
With livestreaming, you can do whatever you feel comfortable with. If you’re skilled at yoga, you can practice your positions, if you like singing, you can hold karaoke sessions.
As for me, I’ll turn on my live stream while working out at the gym, and the daddies offer me encouragement and advice.
What you want to do is really up to your creativity. Some people like to chat, while others like to watch me do my thing. If you get along with the daddies, they tip you (gold coins) while you talk and learn about their day.
I wasn’t a confident person before this job opportunity. After my breakup, and changing jobs to stay home to take care of my dad, I became isolated.
I stopped keeping in contact with friends, and I focused on taking care of my dad.
But Sugarbook helped me become more confident in myself. I’ve never met any of my Sugar Daddies in real life, but I’ve built good relationships with Daddies who are supporting me.
I’ve opened up to them about my situation, and they empathize with me.
I also learnt that being rich doesn’t mean all your problems go away. I had sugar daddies who were going through a few troubles of their own. Not everyone was living an easy life simply because they were rich.
Although it started out as a way to save my father’s life, sugar babying helped me feel less isolated and alone, especially during the pandemic.
I am no longer lonely, and I’m part of a community that gives me companionship without having to do any sexual favors.
Anything is possible when you put your mind to it.
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