Some guys regard women as complete mysteries. They often wonder what’s going on in women’s minds. There’s this popular misconception that women go for men that are visually appealing or wealthy. The truth is, women have various preferences in men, and you can’t generalize easily.
Rather than guessing what turn women off about men, I talk to some of them and find out.
Mel, who’s been in a relationship for the past year, says the one thing which turns her off about guys is body odor. “I can tolerate almost anything from guys. Even things like lying don’t turn me off that much. I mean everyone lies once in a while.
But to me basic hygiene is really that; basic. If you can’t take care of yourself then maybe you can’t take care of other things” she says.
A.H., who’s also in a relationship right now, is turned off by guys who uphold patriarchy. “If they’re patriarchal and think that somehow their gender makes them better than everyone else, I get completely turned off and lose interest. Also, I switch off if they’re narrow minded and too absorbed with their own way of thinking. These types of guys are really hard to talk to. I love having discussions about serious topics and some guys just insist that their way of thinking is the ONLY way. These are the types of guys I tend to stay away from”
“Another thing I dislike about guys is when they start boasting about their wealth. All these outer embellishments don’t impress me about a guy. I would prefer it if they had an open and humble personality” she adds.
K.R. has listed out three things that turn her off about a guy. The first is his attitude towards children, animals and the elderly. “I can’t stand it if he is rude or unkind to groups that are helpless. This is the easiest thing to do and if you can’t even be kind to these people, what kind of person are you?”
“I also hate it when guys don’t want to listen or just brush me off. I’m the kind of person that likes to share my feelings and opinions about many subjects. If a guy says ‘Owh, c’mon, stop thinking about it. It’s none of your business,’ that just hurts me because it diminishes the value of my opinions.”
“The last one is smokers and vapers. I just don’t understand the activity and why people do it. I can’t see myself in a committed relationship with a smoker.”
The last lady I spoke to, N.A., says that she cannot stand men who are completely self-absorbed and so insecure that they’re in constant want of praise and attention. “I just dislike it when a guy expects constant reminders about how great their looks or talents are. Often, they also put their own wants an needs before others and this comes back to being narcissistic.”
Personally, as a woman who has been in a relationship for six years and married for slightly over one year, I echo the opinions of these women. I’m particularly turned off by men who are egotistical and entitled. They feel that somehow, their career, position or wealthy sets them apart and they talk down to the people around them. Humility is something I really cherish in a person, whether men or women.
If you’re a guy reading this, you’ll notice that most women are more concerned about your personality rather than what car you drive or how much you earn. This isn’t a movie like ‘The Fast and the Furious’. The important element that determines a long lasting relationship is always good character, not how many ‘likes’ you have on social media or how rad your crib is.
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