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A flight stewardess reached out to IRL to share her predicament and asked for advice. Here is her story:
I joined a famous international airline when I was 19. Now I am 20. In the span of one year, I’ve been travelling the world and living a life of luxury.
During my layovers, I would usually go on casual dates. I loved meeting attractive men while waiting for my next flight home.
Since the airline puts you in a nice hotel, I would go on dating apps, match with men I found attractive, and have a ‘marathon’ of men come to my room.
I really do enjoy this as I could explore and meet so many people this way.
I am quite adventurous and enjoy spending quality time with multiple partners. Sometimes on the same day, and sometimes one day after the other.
I wanted to be with men from all over the world, going through the world map with a man from each country. I guess this was how I ‘travelled the world’.
I found out I was pregnant from one of my wild nights
I recently found out I was pregnant when I noticed that my period was late. I took a test immediately and it got tested positive. I tested again, and I got the result that I was positive again.
I don’t think this news has truly sunk in yet. According to my calculations, I believe that I had a layover in London when I got pregnant.
I remember that night. I had just landed and was feeling up to some spicy adventure. The moment I reached my hotel, I whipped out my app and started swiping.
I was looking to fulfil a fantasy of meeting 3 men at the same time. You would think it’s hard to coordinate it, but it was surprisingly easy to get the three strangers to agree.
Between the 3 men that night, they were all of different ethnicities. There was a South African white man, a British-born Nigerian man, and the other guy was from Argentina.
One thing that worries me about being pregnant is that I don’t know who the father is. I am worried that I don’t even know the ethnicity of this baby.
I know I made a huge mistake, but I can’t bear to abort my baby
I know I truly messed up here. Part of me is telling me to not go through with this pregnancy as it is a big mess.
Another part of me can’t bear to abort this pregnancy. I have always wanted kids, just not under these circumstances. I wanted to be older, married, and more financially secure. I want to do this with a partner, not alone.
I know time is an important aspect of making the decision, but I truly am feeling so confused. I am too scared to tell anyone, except 2 of my closest friends. I am afraid of ruining my life.
If I have this baby, I will have to quit my job eventually and figure out how to earn a living and take care of this child.
On the other hand, if I don’t go through with the pregnancy, I’m afraid I will be ridden with guilt and my conscience will suffer.
Here is our advice from some of our seasoned columnists:
“If I was in your shoes, I would find a way to get an abortion. Raising a child is no easy feat, and comes with a lot of responsibilities. Hearing your story, it seems like you’re not ready to care for a child in the long term. If you’re able to get help from your family, now is the time especially if you plan on keeping it.” – Leena
“On one hand, she should have been using protection. On the other hand, someone young and impressionable in their early 20s is easily taken advantage of by older men who should know better. I pray for her safety and hope she makes the right choices moving forward” – Min
“You have to choose to accept responsibility for your actions and bring the baby to term, as abortion is illegal without a medical reason in Malaysia. I hope she finds a way to give the baby up for adoption as she is not in the right mindset to raise a child.“ – Frankie
“I’ll be the one to say it: if you don’t know the ethnicity of the baby, there are other possible repercussions here – societal, racial, religious, political that will affect your life, and potentially very negatively. I strongly suggest getting a therapist to help you cope with the decision you have to make and its consequences.” – Arif
What do you think she should do?
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