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She used to be into the Nissan Skyline, and if you know HotWheels, you know how expensive that is (laughs).
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Basically, we broke up a while back, but currently, we’re patching it up. She’s already engaged right now, so I figured, before I lose her forever and lose the chance to apologise properly, this was the way that we could just patch it all up with each other.
Our Relationship
We met when MCO just ended, which was around March. We were in a long-distance relationship, as I stayed in Kajang and she was living in Sabah. We dated for seven months, but about three or four months ago, around August or September, we broke up.
[Girl speaking] When we were broken up, I found someone, and now I’m engaged to him. As we were breaking up, I was actually having really bad mental breakdowns, and my current partner was there for me at the time. In November, my sister was physically and mentally abusing me so my fiancé helped me a lot at the time.
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Initially, I felt concerned about how fast everything was moving because we were already dating so quickly, and now we were going to get married just as quickly. But the situation called for it, and he decided to propose as a way to protect me.
Why We Broke Up & How We Reconnected
[Guy talking] Throughout the time that we dated, we’ve only met once.
Our meeting today is literally the second time we’ve physically seen each other.
I wanted to see her more back then but she didn’t really want to and she was more invested in going out with her friends. So, she would go for outings with them and not tell me, of course, I felt hurt. So I thought she was cheating on me. We broke up and I blocked her for three months.
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So, she broke the news and tried to apologise the following day. Yet, I felt it’d be better if we had a talk face to face.
What Is Meant To Be, Will Be
I’m 22. She’s 20 and her fiance is 24. We connected at first because of yaoi, which is a boy’s love type of story.
“The both of us actually met on OkCupid and now I still have PTSD for that app because of her (laughs).”
Now, I try to think maturely. Of course, I’m hurt but I’m well aware that the new guy is more fit for her. I’m still living with my parents so I can’t give as much. He can provide for her more, he knew her for longer and he was there for her when I couldn’t be.
Meanwhile, I was just finishing my studies and I wasn’t exactly financially stable.
Since she’s getting married, I want her to remember, “I am still your friend. Don’t treat him the way you treated me.”
I’m actually a cosplayer and she’s about to get into it as well.
All my friends are either slowing down in the cosplay scene or they’re just getting older. But next year, I’m planning to get more serious about this. I want to have a legacy in cosplaying.
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Why I Still Want Her In My Life
I’m doing this because I don’t want to make the same mistake that I did with my first ex.
All my friends were advising me that I should not meet up with her at all. But my father told me otherwise.
My relationship with my father had never been good, but it had gotten so bad; she hurt me so bad that I actually turned to him for advice.
Even though he had never given me any fatherly advice in my life, he gave me a good one right then and there.
“Kalau nak jumpa, jumpa. Let bygones be bygones. Kalau jadi kawan, jadilah kawan. Yang penting, you know what is right. So, just meet up with her and forgive her.”
I do believe that exes don’t necessarily need to avoid each other like the plague. Although we broke up on a bad note, there’s a willingness in both of us to get over the bridge together.
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