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I was with my fiancé for 10 years.
He was a pilot, and we were supposed to get married in June, but in April of that year, he confessed to me that he had cheated on me and that he wasn’t ready to be a dad, so the relationship ended there.
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“My fiancé didn’t mention specifically who or the number of people, but he did say that along the journey of us dating, he had a few other girls.”
After that, I was stress-eating a lot, and I didn’t date for a couple of years. I was spending a lot of time with my friends and my family, getting to know myself. I was being alone by myself for most of the time.
A few years later, I finally decided to start over again.
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“If I could turn back time to when I first met him, I think I would have told myself not to make him a priority.”
I should just enjoy my youth rather than chase after someone who is not a permanent fixture in my life.
I met my Fiancé when I was 16 years old. Most of my 20s and early 20s were spent with him and being clingy with him.
So I didn’t really spend time with my friends and things like that. I think if I could talk to other girls, I’d tell them to focus on themselves first rather than focus on other people.
If it’s meant to be, it will just fall into place. Don’t force things. Girls are held to a higher standard in society because we are expected to marry by a certain age or be considered “outcasts.”
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But I think we need to shift that mindset, like don’t put a timeframe on when you should get married and such.
We never know what will happen in life. Everyone’s life changes and everyone has different timelines.
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