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A big shoutout to all of you couples who are in a happy and loving relationship! Couples like you guys are a treasure. It can be hard to find a significant other who is compatible with you on many different levels.
But what about those couples who are less fortunate? What about those people who feel trapped or stuck in their loveless relationship?
If you are feeling stuck in your relationship and no matter what you’ve done, it isn’t helping in reigniting the spark in the relationship, you’d have to reconsider the significance of the relationship to you.
Staying in a loveless relationship can drain you (so much that you feel helpless) and distract you from many aspects of life. You’ll feel so lack of energy to focus on your work or do the simple gestures for your significant other that you’d have usually done in the past.
Personally, I’m a hopeless romantic. Most of the time, if my partner is happy then I am too. However, I’ve had my fair experience of being in a loveless relationship. Here are some things that you can try to help you reignite the spark in your relationship.
1. Talk to your partner about the things you don’t like he/she is doing
Communication! It’s the most crucial thing in all kinds of relationships. Things can fall apart without communication. Partners need to communicate with each other on their likes and dislikes, what makes them feel loved or even when they feel ignored and neglected.
Talking to your partner not only tells them about the things above, it also gives them a chance to improve or change the behaviours that are not essential for the relationship. And mind you, if he/she loves you enough, they will take the initiative to change! They might not change completely but as long you’re seeing changes, you’re making progress.
Side note: Keep in mind that it’s difficult for someone to completely change their personality or behaviour.
2. Remind them that you cherish them
Now, this goes without saying. If you love someone, you’ll fawn over the person, do simple (or grand. Good for you if you are capable) gestures that reminds them of their importance to you. Simple gestures such as cooking for them, cleaning the house when they are busy with their work or help wash and walk the dog can all be helpful to your partner.
These gestures will let them know that you are being considerate of them and hope that they can have a better day by helping out with these tasks.
Of course, there are other ways to show your love to your partner. Forgetting your anniversary is not one of them. Small gifts can go a long way as well (especially if you know they wanted to buy it for a long time). It doesn’t have to be expensive. By presenting them gifts, you show that you are observant of your partner and they will come to appreciate your gesture.
3. Take a short vacation
Take a vacation. Just the both of you. It doesn’t have to be far or out of the country. But it has to be a place that both of you love. Take the effort to enjoy your partner’s company and just relax in their presence. Most of the time, going to places that both of you love can reset your perspective and make you realise the many similarities that you both share.
In addition, going for vacations not only gives you more topic of conversations but it also gives both of you an excitement that both of you share. That excitement is the key to reigniting your relationship, people. Keep that in mind.
Vacations do wonders to a person’s mind. It’s like a reset button for your mind – resetting all your worries and stress. Besides, it could give you new insights to situations, be it relationship, work or family.
These are just some examples of what you can do in situations like this. Hopefully it can be helpful to you.
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