When feminism was a thing a few years back, it was awesome. Women were fighting for equal rights, pay, and job opportunities. They raised awareness on gender inequality in other countries, and how they were undermined despite their skills. It was truly an empowering and proud moment, seeing women standing up for themselves. Fast forward to this day - I feel ashamed to tell others that I\u2019m a feminist. It\u2019s because of all the negative associations with this term. Somehow, it feels like the cause has been derailed, and it\u2019s no longer about what it was when it started. I support feminism when it\u2019s true to the cause. I support feminism when I see men degrading women and treating them as being less. I absolutely hate the idea that women should be confined to home duties and doing nothing more, while men work to earn a living. The idea that women are only good for staying home, giving birth to keep the family lineage going. We are NOT baby factories. I support feminism when I see women being denied the right to drive, or judged as sluts for what they wear, yet labelled as a prude when they\u2019re fully covered. I support feminism when it counts \u2013 when it is truly about gender inequality. I do NOT support extremist feminism, or what I would call toxic feminism. Naturally, I have a few friends who are feminists as well. But just like some vegans, they take feminism to the extreme. By this, I mean everything that goes wrong in their life is because of sexism and gender inequality. It\u2019s never their own fault. When they get stopped by the police while the driver in front of them wasn\u2019t - sexism. Their first question isn\u2019t towards their own behaviour, but other people\u2019s. \u201cIs it because I\u2019m a girl?\u201d They read about men being distasteful - catcalling, slut-shaming, etc - sexism. \u201cAll men are disgusting.\u201d (God forbid the men ever reply with a \u201cNot all men.\u201d) I mean, I hate catcalling and slut-shaming too, and these acts are disgusting - but generalising all men just isn\u2019t right. When some men point out, \u201cAll women are only after money\u201d, these are the same girls who respond with \u201cNot all women\u201d and scream sexism in their faces. They see a classic movie remake with men starring as main characters (just as it used to be) - sexism. \u201cWhere are the ladies? Where are the people of colour? Where are the LGBTQ+ representation?\u201d No longer can we enjoy a movie just as it is. Every movie must include a main female lead of colour and preferably be bisexual or something. Maybe even physically disabled. Or else the movie is \u2018against women, feminism, and the LGBTQ+ community.\u2019 They dress inappropriately for a formal occasion, and when confronted, they go on and on about how feminism is all about wearing whatever they want, whenever they want. Because it\u2019s \u2018empowering\u2019 for women. I, a female who also wants to support feminism, am wrong for telling them that what they wear is not suitable for said formal occasion. Imagine wearing a tank top to a formal event and using feminism as an excuse! Toxic feminism is NOT empowering. It\u2019s just as disgusting as toxic masculinity. Stop picking at things that don\u2019t matter. Imagine a feminist arguing about how firemen should be called a \u2018fireperson\u2019 or \u2018firewoman\u2019 instead of talking about the gender-related pay gap, women who aren\u2019t allowed to drive in certain countries, or tampons being a \u2018luxury\u2019 product. These feminists are out there, waging wars on silly things. You can talk to these extreme feminists about any topic - and they\u2019ll find a way to link it back to feminism and how all men are pigs. They then end the discussion with, \u201cThis is why we need feminism\u201d. In fact, this article itself might be shared with that sentence as the caption as well. Tell me these toxic feminists aren\u2019t annoying. No, you toxic feminists are NOT empowering other women or battling for equal rights. You\u2019re just creating drama for the sake of it. You\u2019re drawing attention to yourselves, making other women disgusted with your behaviour and straying far away from feminism. You\u2019re making us ashamed to call ourselves feminists. Not all feminists, yada yada yada. Feminism, as it was in the beginning, was awesome. I\u2019m all for equal rights and opportunities. Yet these feminist extremists are looking at all the wrong things. Issues that don\u2019t matter, especially when there are bigger things to worry about. It\u2019s a shame that some of my feminist acquaintances - I\u2019d be ashamed to call them my friends - make feminists look bad. They turn any issue into one that degrades men, rather than about gender-equality. They\u2019ve learnt to use feminism as a shield and can no longer look at themselves objectively. Nothing they do is ever their fault. It\u2019s strange but this is how I feel. I would have been more of a feminist if not for these so-called \u2018feminists\u2019 themselves. For more articles on toxic behaviour, read I Used to Spread Toxic Masculinity. Here\u2019s What I Did, and Positive Female Interaction Ended My Relationship.