This is a user submission to IRL. The opinions expressed are solely those of the author, and do not represent the opinions of IRL or its affiliates. I\u2019ve been laid off twice in 2014. The first layoff was brutal. The second layoff at another company was handled humanely and I accepted my fate and how my manager handled the situation. Before I tell you what happened, a little back story would be necessary: In November 2010, I started working as an engineer in the oil & gas industry based in Singapore. In 2014, the 2 biggest oil producers (Saudi Arabia and the Americans) were at a price war that plummeted the world crude oil prices for years. When the crude oil prices are too low, no one wants to go dig for new oil as the selling price is lower than the cost to produce it. Here\u2019s what happened: The Heartless Uncle Sam Lay Off via GIPHY I was working for an American oil company in Singapore. There were no warnings whatsoever. In 2013, one morning in my cubicle, I received a work email bcc-ed to me (meaning I can\u2019t see who else is getting this email) which was weird. It asked me to go to this room that I\u2019ve never been to at 10:00 am. I clicked on \u2018Yes, I will be attending.\u2019 without thinking much of it. At 9:55 am: I stood up and asked my colleague next to me, \u201cHey, you\u2019re not going to that meeting?\u201d Cubicle colleague: \u201cWhat meeting? I didn\u2019t get any email\u201d. Me: \u201cWeird, OK.\u201d I took the elevator down by myself anyway. In the elevator were my other colleagues from different departments. Small elevator chit chat: \u201cYou got that email too huh?\u201d Elevator colleagues: \u201cYup.\u201d Weird, some people got the email, some didn\u2019t. We all piled into a room with around 15 to 20 other of my \u2018selected colleagues\u2019 for the first wave of the layoffs. Across us were the HR people from Singapore. Along with them were 2 authoritative Texan Americans (with the hat) that I\u2019ve never seen before. The Texan: \u201cEverybody\u2019s here?\u201d Singapore HR counting heads: \u201cYup.\u201d The Texan: \u201cAlright, close the door,\u201d followed by a long pause. He then went straight in for the jugular. The Texan: \u201cAlright, I\u2019m just going to be blunt here, you all will be relieved from your position effective immediately.\u201d (not verbatim, but something along this line). \u201cWe will honor your termination contract payment (it was only a 1-month pay for me). But before you get that, you need to sign this paper.\u201d The Singapore HR passed down everyone a piece of legal paper with pens. Basically it says that by signing, we won\u2019t sue the company. They psyched us to sign the legal paper or else we won\u2019t be getting our 1-month pay in lieu. Actually I learned later on that they can\u2019t do this. But at the time, we were all shocked and emotional, we just did what we were told. While signing, a colleague I didn\u2019t know was quivering to the point of almost crying. A grown-ass man. Apparently he just moved to Singapore with his wife and kid from India for this position. It was painful to watch. After the HR have collected all the signed anti-sue documents from us, the Texan guy continues: \u201cWe\u2019ve arranged a bus for you back to the city. I want you to go up, get your stuff from your cubicles and get on that bus by 11 am.\u201d (The office was at the edge of Singapore with no public transportation). That was it. I was shocked and extremely embarrassed to show face to my other colleagues. I just quickly and discreetly packed all of my stuff and got onto that bus full of confused, weeping adults. It was brutal. I went back to my parent's place in Malaysia and applied for new jobs online. 6 months later, I got another Oil & Gas job also in Singapore but that job only lasted 9 months. Here\u2019s what happened: The Polite Scottish Company Lay Off This new company was based in Aberdeen, UK. But I was hired in 2014 for their small Singapore office. I spent 3 months in Aberdeen as part of their \u2018training\u2019 and had an absolute blast doing some hikes over there. It was epic. I came back to Singapore and served for a couple of months. During one of my weekly group telephone conferences, the boss from HQ, Aberdeen asked me if I was ready to make another 3 month trip to Aberdeen. I was like \u201cHell yeah!\u201d and was looking forward to it. During my pantry visit to refill my coffee, I met one of our project engineers who worked closely with the front line of the Oil & Gas market. He was explaining to me how the market was so bad and he says we all should be lucky to still have jobs in a couple of months. Not sure why, but I didn\u2019t take him seriously at the time and just went back to my cubicle with my fresh coffee. Lo and behold, one day, my Singapore Manager (he was a chap from the UK) called me into his office. He asked me to close the door so I did and immediately I was like \u201cOh shit\u2026 is it happening again?\u201d Indeed it did ladies and gentlemen. I was getting laid off for the second time in my life. But he was nice to me about it though: \u201cHey, you know the market is tanking at the moment. We don\u2019t think we\u2019ll be able to make any money for at least 2 years because of this price war. We are forced to put your position as redundant. So today is your last day, unfortunately.\u201d \u201cIt\u2019s not just you, my position will likely be next, along with the closure of the Singapore office.\u201d I totally respected his tact, nice and upfront about it. He even treated me to lunch. During that lunch, he gave me some personal industry updates and career advice. He said: \u201cThe Oil & Gas market is tanking for the next couple of years. My advice to you is to forget about the Oil & Gas industry. Try going into something else, like automotive engineering or industrial or something. Just forget about Oil & Gas. If you need a recommendation letter for a new job, let me know, I\u2019ll help you out.\u201d That, ladies and gentlemen, is how you lay somebody off. I was treated respectfully and humanely. The lunch was not necessary, but ultimately, I understood the industry\u2019s situation and was not mad at the company or him as the manager that was responsible to lay me off. I went back to my Singapore rented room. I was on the public bus, I had a seat at the back of the bus. I rest my backpack on the floor with my wireless keyboard sticking out, wondering what the hell am I going to do next. Next Chapter: Entrepreneurship When I came back to Malaysia after being laid off twice in Singapore. I had enough. I had enough with the Oil & Gas industry, and I had enough of being an employee. I had a girlfriend at the time (she was Korean but we both were working in Singapore). The relationship ended because I didn\u2019t want to return back to Singapore. It was tough, but I had bigger problems: I had 2 mortgages to pay off and that\u2019s when I started an Airbnb business initially to cover my mortgage. But it grew to a 10 studio business in Bukit Bintang KL. The spin-off from this venture was the launch of my very own blog, initially to promote direct bookings for my studios but have been re-purposed for a topic that I love to write about, which is personal finance. Key Takeaway \tIf you start getting weird emails like a BCC email from HR, then you know you\u2019re in the hot seat. \tAmerican companies will fire you just like in their movies. \tI personally think the Oil & Gas industry is flawed. Usually, when the Arabs decide to go into a price war, massive layoffs will ensue. \tIf you have a very high salary and if anything happens to your job or industry, it\u2019ll be very hard to find another job that can value you and pay you as much. (Feel free to prove my views wrong in the comments though). \tI was lucky to not buy anything ridiculous when I had a job (like a luxury car or a big bike). \tSaving enough money and not spending on useless items saved me twice. Smart personal finance is baked into my consciousness from these 2 events. \tEverything is fine until it isn\u2019t. For more stories like this, read: These Are Three Malaysians Who Got Fired for the Most Ridiculous Reasons and 4 Lessons I\u2019ve Learned After Switching from Government to Startup.