Depression is a serious mental health issue that can go unnoticed, and untreated for years. It affects 1 in 5 adults.\u00a0 Unfortunately, depression sufferers battle a negative perception in Malaysia. Many people with depression don\u2019t want to share that fact with others \u2014\u00a0they don\u2019t want to become a \u201cburden\u201d to those around them.\u00a0 They don\u2019t want to be given that knowing, pitying look. Most would rather resign or die before they admit publicly that depression is a part of their lives.\u00a0 Because of this tendency to hide their suffering, help doesn\u2019t come until it\u2019s too late \u2014\u00a0and someone has taken their own life. If you are reading this, I hope that you are trying to understand and support someone going through this. That, or you can relate in a very intimate fashion. Here are 5 hidden signs of someone who has depression: 1. Sleeping too much People with depression tend to have two sleeping patterns: \u201cI Sleep For Days\u201d or \u201cSleep Is For The Weak\u201d. Depression can be paralyzing. The negativity in the head just overwhelms the motivation to do anything at all. Worse yet, they know it but cannot muster up the strength to do anything about it.\u00a0 For people with depression, there are days where this state of paralyzed helplessness makes them want to do nothing but sleep to escape that very feeling\u2026and pray that tomorrow will somehow be different. These individuals don\u2019t want to face the pain of the outside world. They cancel plans. Live off GrabFood and FoodPanda. And refuse to see anyone. If you do see them, expect a monosyllabic sluggish zombie that is slow on the uptake and reaction to everything to be the norm. Not the exception.\u00a0 Is your friend or family member becoming more listless, lethargic, and sleepy? Are they giving monosyllabic answers to you? They may be going through depression. 2. Sleeping too little On the other hand, some just refuse to sleep or simply cannot sleep.\u00a0 Their brains will not shut down and they can\u2019t stop analyzing the good, bad, ugly and beyond their control. Everything is processed and reprocessed until it becomes the worst-case scenario. This loop keeps going until their body runs out of energy and finally crashes. Only then, can they have the rest that they crave for. The signs of someone who is going through this manic phase includes lack of concentration, forgetting things easily, being restless and irritated, and low mood. 3. Irregular Eating Habits Sufferers of depression tend to start displaying strange and irregular eating habits.\u00a0 It varies greatly between individuals. Some eat more, some eat next to nothing.\u00a0 There are those who will devour an entire buffet line and those that suddenly seem to exist on photosynthesis.\u00a0 Food cravings will appear and disappear on a whimsy. Food is a way to ease the pain. Caffeine and sugar can perk them up, and combined with their medications, helps pull them out of the darkness of their depression.\u00a0 When somebody suddenly starts sugar loading their coffee or goes after the dessert trolley.\u00a0 It\u2019s the change from the norm that indicates something is up.\u00a0 The reverse can also be true - some stop eating altogether. They won\u2019t eat because hunger gives them something to focus on \u2014\u00a0mentally \u2014\u00a0besides the swirling chaos in their heads.\u00a0 Not eating is a form of self-control \u2014\u00a0they may not be able to control their depression, but they can control what they eat.\u00a0 If you notice your friend getting thinner, not joining you for lunches or dinner, saying they\u2019re \u2018not hungry\u2019 or they\u2019ve \u201calready eaten\u201d \u2014\u00a0they might have depression. 4. Professional \u201ccover stories\u201d People battling depression are able to come up with elaborate but believable excuses for their mistakes and behavior, all in the name of hiding what they are going through.\u00a0 From skipping appointments, not returning calls, and missing something or anything, they have learned to deflect or redirect the conversation away from their pain and hurt.\u00a0 Part of those cover stories is being able to fake a mood and a smile, coming off normal and happy to the outside world while they continue their inner struggle because they don\u2019t want to \u201cbring others down.\u201d\u00a0 To look beyond the facade, you have to notice things like missed appointments, missed calls, or changing the subject whenever their personal lives are brought up.\u00a0 Understandably, you can only know this if you\u2019re close to the person, or living with them. Otherwise, you may simply have a gut feeling that there\u2019s something a little \u2018off\u2019 about your friend - which you may have to confirm by asking them point-blank. 5. A greater sense of empathy A celebrity dies, and it comes out that they suffered from depression. Maybe it was the cause, maybe it had nothing to do with it.\u00a0 Regardless, that depth of emotional pain was ironically a source of inner strength. It was what made their art, their performance that more evocative, moving and powerful.\u00a0 Not everyone is a Robin Willians or Anthony Bourdain. But all suffer the curse of depression in a similar way:\u00a0 They have a depth of emotions that they feel more acutely than the rest of us. The positive emotions are fleeting and the negative emotions strike incredibly hard. Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, pessimism and hopelessness are a constant companion. The persistence of these negative emotions sucks the joy out of the greatest life has to offer, and leaves them feeling empty.\u00a0 Yet, it does mean they are more empathetic to the suffering of others, more than those uncaring people who only shrug in response. Your friend might be the only one that will sit with you, commiserate over your misfortune and they will NOT tell you \u201c hang in there\u201d or that \u201cthings will get better.\u201d\u00a0 These people know what you feel so intimately, they let you experience it, and learn from what you feel (albeit painfully) because they KNOW it will pass. They know because they live it. Every day.\u00a0 Your quiet, unjudging support means the world to them Those dealing with depression become ruled by specific patterns of behavior like the ones mentioned above. The pattern becomes a coping mechanism.\u00a0 From the outside, try to understand: There is no dishonesty in their choice to hide their Depression.\u00a0 People with depression are just working to protect their hearts while fighting a war in their head every waking moment of the day.\u00a0 Even if you see the signs day-in-day-out for weeks at a time, be the quiet pillar of support that accepts them, as a whole, as an individual.\u00a0 Accept that what they suffer from is a debilitating condition. Your friend might disappear from the \u201csocial scene.\u201d Don\u2019t force them to join in. Just drop a text and offer to drop by and visit. Even if they say no, that simple text can mean the world to them.\u00a0 If you can meet them one on one, then do so. Don\u2019t expect a conversation. Just enjoy the silence and let them initiate if they chose to.\u00a0 Don\u2019t confront them; just be there for them. We can\u2019t fight their battles for them, but we can be there for them to lean on when they need it.\u00a0 Given time, they will open up and confide in you about their problems.\u00a0 There are many more signs of Depression than these, but they are the most noticeable over the long term.\u00a0 Hopefully you\u2019ll be able to spot them before it\u2019s too late, and guide them towards the help they need. After all, tragedy can strike any of us down at any given time. It\u2019s only human to help one another in need.\u00a0 For more stories about recognising depression, read: Your Mental Health: When You Know It\u2019s Time to Get Professional Help and 5 Things People With Depression Wished Their Partners Knew.