Disclaimer: In Real Life is a platform for everyday people to share their experiences and voices. All articles are personal stories and do not necessarily echo In Real Life\u2019s sentiments. In 2015, my husband and I got married.\u00a0 Before getting married,\u00a0 whenever we talked about our future and our wedding, we had a plan. A complete opposite plan to how it turned out in the end.\u00a0 We were so sure how it was going to turn out, that the way it did turn out still surprises me to this day.\u00a0 A dream wedding that never came true. Our plan was to hold the wedding in our garden at home. We\u2019d be surrounded by colourful flowers and have delicious food under the canopy of our house.\u00a0 We envisioned a small, intimate affair, with just a few of our relatives and friends, people who we recognised and could have conversations other than small talk.\u00a0 We decided to get married in June, since it was the time of the year that rained the least in Malaysia - perfect for our garden plans. Maybe later, after our honeymoon in Maldives, we would have a wedding dinner party where we invite everyone to a big banquet hall and celebrate our union. It was simple but that was our dream. However, it didn\u2019t come true for us.\u00a0 Our parents didn\u2019t agree to our dream I am the only daughter in my family, and my husband is the first one to get married in his family. So a simple wedding became a \u2018NO\u2019 in big red letters. It had to be a traditional Indian wedding. We received various comments on our wedding plans from both sides. For example:\u00a0 \u201cYou are too whitewashed.\u201d \u201cYou aren\u2019t following the traditions.\u201d \u201cWhat will the rest of the relatives think?\u201d And even:\u00a0 \u201cAre you guys eloping?\u201d Yes, we weren\u2019t planning to have a traditional wedding. But how does that translate to, \u201cYou weren\u2019t raised well?\u201d Before the wedding, my relatives held a gathering with a small group of my cousins and my husband\u2019s family to discuss what to do.\u00a0 Our attempts to put our foot down to get our ideal wedding were simply waved aside.\u00a0 One of my aunts suggested, \u201cWhy don\u2019t we just make the banquet hall look like a garden instead of a real garden?\u201d\u00a0 But the idea of having a wedding in the garden resulted in confused and disgusted looks by the elderly.\u00a0 In the end, since our parents were paying for a portion of the wedding, we couldn\u2019t find it in ourselves to argue with them too much. So we gave in and had a more traditional wedding instead.\u00a0 Our budget was RM30k, but we ended up spending RM70k My partner\u2019s budget and I was RM15k each. But since our parents insisted on this wedding and decided to contribute financially, we spent more.\u00a0 Wedding attires including the bride and groom RM 5000 Jewelry RM 20,000 Dinner hall (20 tables) + decoration RM 15,000 Food RM 12, 000 Wedding car decoration + photographer RM 5,550 Temple Wedding + astrology + priest RM 10,000 House decoration RM 2,500 Makeup artist RM 1,500 In the end, we spent a little over RM 70k for the wedding and dinner party. First, our families had to go see if our astrology signs aligned. The signs show how compatible you are with your person.\u00a0 Luckily, we did, but I do wonder, would they have stopped us from marrying each other if they didn't? We then had to find an auspicious date. October 25th was the only date available, because any other date would result in a bad marriage.\u00a0 We got married in a temple in the early morning. I had to be awake at 2 am to start getting ready for a wedding that was taking place at 7 am.\u00a0 The temple was crowded with faces, some I couldn't even recognise. I would assume there were about 500 people, maybe even more. According to our families, they were our relatives or family friends. I remember how hot the day was. I felt like my makeup was melting off every second. To top it off, the weight of my RM1k embroidered saree with beads and sequins did not help the discomfort.\u00a0 It was very hectic but thankfully it was a quick wedding. After an hour or two, the ceremony was over and it was time for food.\u00a0 Our families compromised with us and agreed to have the wedding dinner party in a banquet hall. However, they only allowed us to have it if it was the same day of the wedding itself.\u00a0 We agreed to this because it felt like a win, without knowing how tired we would be from our wedding. Even after the wedding, we had more traditions to follow.\u00a0 We had to go to my house for them to recite prayers for blessings from the elderly, and then hold a welcoming ceremony for the groom.\u00a0 Then, we had to go to the groom\u2019s house and repeat the same thing, this time for the bride.\u00a0 When the dinner party came, we both felt like zombies.\u00a0 We had to make a closet change, another heavy saree that was embroidered with beads and makeup. At that point, all I wanted was to go back home, slip on a kaftan dress and take a nap.\u00a0 By the time everything was over, we had stayed up for almost 24 hours.\u00a0 After 5 years, do I wish we could have done it differently? The answer is a definite yes. I do wish things had been done differently. I wish the only people who paid for the wedding were my husband and I. That way, we would have been the only ones to choose. Our money, our rules.\u00a0 It\u2019s illogical, but no matter how much we saved up, our parents would have still insisted on paying for our weddings as an act of love.\u00a0 Even though it feels like they were projecting their ideal wedding on us, I do understand that it came from a place of love and concern. Hence, why I don\u2019t hold a grudge against them.\u00a0 Yes, we spent over our budget but inviting more people also meant getting more gifts and cash from relatives, so luckily, we didn\u2019t go into debt for the wedding. In the end, everything turned out well. To me, it wasn't about the wedding, it\u2019s about the marriage. And I don\u2019t regret marrying my husband. For more stories like this, read:I Wanted A Small Wedding, But My In-laws Wanted A Grand One and It Cost Us RM30,000 and Seven Reasons Why I Don\u2019t Want a Wedding When I Decide to Get Married\u00a0 If you like what you read, follow us on Facebook & Instagram.